Having visited many bedrooms over time in my capacity as a Feng
Shui Consultant, I swear the state of this room ALWAYS mirrors the state of the
Relationship in question! It's a complete give away with the choices of images
and appearance of the room. Often when I meet a client in their home for the
first time I give them a lesson in Feng Shui and then let them tell me how their
choices have been supporting them - or not ... I list three examples:
One client was experiencing sever relationship issues, and
guess what - when we went into the bedroom the influences were obvious. The
main reason was a picture of a single naked woman laying on an unmade bed
asleep - need I say more as this represents being by yourself, unprotected
and unconscious to opportunities. There was also damp plasterwork in the
room, and problems with water always indicates difficulties in
relationships. Ironically she used to have one of the well known Robert Doisneau romantic photographs in the room, but hadn't recognised the fact
that it was when she changed her picture her relationship transformed too!
I asked another client once to describe her bedroom, as
her husband at the time had just suggested they divorce. She said it was
awful, the curtains were never finished as she just cut the length off to
fit the window and had never hemmed them properly. Also the room had never
been decorated since they moved in so they were sleeping in other people's
energy, and because she was studying to be a dance teacher there was a
poster on the wall defining and naming all the muscles of the anatomy of the
body. Interesting that her husband had spent all his time by himself at the
gym defining his muscles!
Another client who experienced two relationships that
quickly finished one after the other had hung a mirror opposite her bedroom
door, which had the action of mirroring people out of her life. When she
moved the mirror her next relationship became long term.
Let's have a serious look at our bedroom and see how we can
REALLY improved our Relationships with the person we LOVE the most. Our bedroom
is a place where we can enjoy complete rest and quality sleep patterns to enable
the body to repair and regenerate the millions of cells it needs to replace
daily. As the room where we get the most nourishment and support, it is
important this room is totally focused on restful sleep. However, it is a
multi-use room and a space of retreat, healing, nurturing, love, intimacy,
romance, a dressing and grooming room, and a playroom.
Surround yourself with images that you love and find
inspirational. In the bedroom the best choices are pictures of happy and/or
passionate couples. Avoid hanging any pictures behind the bed. You can further
enhance your relationship by introducing two red (for passion) or pink (for
unconditional love) candles and rose quartz to activate the love energy within
the room. Constantly revitalise the energy of this room by introducing fresh
flowers, refresh with clean bedclothes, and change things round. Use a splash of
red for passion. Have an unspoken "rule" that you do not discuss problems in
bed, and never complain as your partner is going to sleep, or sleep on an
argument. Kiss and make up!
Choose a solid wooden or fabric
headboard to help generate more support and stability in life. A round shape is
good for introducing harmony and clarity. A soft cloud shape is good for love
and creativity. Metal headboards magnify any negative energy and can drain your
vitality, and also make you feel caged. To maintain intimacy, avoid sleeping in
a bed with a split down the centre. Sleeping under beams in the ceiling as can
cause problems with health, and in severe cases can lead to separation of
relationships if there is an invisible divide. Also, avoid sleeping with
cupboard units over the pillow area, as this invisible heavy energy can cause
headaches and sleepless nights.
Try not to have mirrors in the bedroom, especially at the head
or foot of the bed, reflecting the bed, placed opposite the door or reflecting
another mirror. They have a very active, yang and expansive energy, and the
bedroom ideally needs to be a yin and passive environment. If you do have large
mirrors in the bedroom and are unable to remove them such as wall to ceiling
mirrored wardrobes, the best you can do is create a window feature with muslin
curtains to cover the reflection at night. With regard to decor, avoid geometric
patterns and use of the colours grey, blue or black. Rather choose patterns with
flow, movement and passion within their design and choose warmer lighter
colours. Prefer to use a mixture of natural fabrics of cotton, chenille, velvet,
or silk and go for texture on your walls to create a warmer deeper feel to the
room. When you move in to a new home ensure it has at least had a coat of paint
to freshen up the space and make it your own.
Ensure this room does not become a multi-activity centre, and
avoid family photos in the bedroom and any children's toys. Also, ideally do not
have any clutter, computers or exercise equipment in this room. A pile of books
or written work beside the bed has a very yang energy and will stimulate your
mental energy rather than your emotional calm. If you do have to work from your
bedroom, hide all trace of any office equipment at night, perhaps by using a
screen divider or a pretty throw.
If you are looking for a new partner, make space to accommodate
him or her by making the bed up for two with matching bedside tables and lamps.
Get rid of any photos, gifts or souvenirs of old lovers from the past. Create a
"Wish list" of all the characteristics of this new ideal partner; one of my
clients asked for "Someone as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside".
Make sure you include their age range, and state single, loyal, and faithful and
place this list in a red envelope.
Now go and have a look at your bedroom with your new "Eyes of
Truth", have a good old sort out and take action to bring more LOVE into your
LIFE, BE blessed with an abundance of the "Love and Happiness" vibe and enjoy
your new space.